It has been awhile since I had to post yet another disclaimer to dispel the hatred and attacks that antis keep trying to mislead the fandom with, on the Shumdario tag.
Thanks to that post, a bunch of people are again wrongly receiving hatred, death threats and extreme attacks because a person decided to negatively generalize and misportray something to selectively target people because of their unfounded hatred/intolerance for them. The shippers try to avoid drama, conflict as much as possible but the antis will go out of their way to manufacture a line of attack or spin something to demonize everybody. Not long ago, an anti photoshopped a fake instagram post response from Harry. The person admitted it was fake and even then, it took several weeks for that hate to die down. Then now people are trying to start up a fight again over their hyper-policing. It is sad that people feel the constant need to manufacture drama to validate their bullying stance against something ( that goes on in all fandoms).
90% of the Shumdario shippers never even post anything on instagram or twitter openly most of the time. Most of us literally hide the majority of the time ( because we get persecuted, bullied so much), and are extremely low key. The tumblr community of shippers already made a pact NEVER to send anything directly to Matthew, Harry, or anybody else. We respect the 4th wall. I know all of the Shumdario shippers on tumblr and none of them do this. However, we can’t monitor every single person that exists.
It is a lie for a person to generalize, to claim that all Shumdario shippers tag Matthew or Harry in all of their instagram or twitter posts when it comes to Shumdario videos or edits. A handful of international fans (who are not even on tumblr) do this. Even those people, are not directly sending them the material to them.
The majority of Shumdario shippers do NOT want attention and just interact with other shippers. Antis are projecting the notion aggressively that they must feel outrageously uncomfortable even though the shippers are as very passive as can be. The two of them would have to go out of their way to search for the shippers material to see it. Most celebs do not do that and do not try to control or ban people’s ships or fantasies. The Shumdario shippers are not trying to start up anything, it is the antis looking to start a fight here yet again by throwing out a broad generalization to create a line of attack.
Stop generalizing people and please stop up starting up unfounded drama on the Shumdario, Matthew Daddario, and Harry Shum Jr tags. I doubt that either Matthew or Harry care that people ship Shumdario especially since most of the shippers are extremely low key about it and are respecting the 4th wall.
I know a lot of the fandom has been programmed and brainwashed by a fanatical agenda over this. I know the more aggressive antis keep trying to mislead or stir up controversy by trying to convince everybody else to hate us. There is a group that loves to bully and harass others relentlessly while going out of their way to contrive fictional or inaccurate reasons to justify their harassment. Not acceptable that yet again, a number of innocent people are receiving death threats, bullying, and attacks over this. Not acceptable, that people keep being traumatized with so much pain, hostility to the point of quitting the fandom or show over the antis stirring up antagonism yet again.
Any rational person at this point, would know that the shippers haven’t been out of control at all, it is the antis who can’t seem to stop instigating drama over spreading of hatred or accusations. Also, it is NEVER appropriate to demonize or profile an entire group of shippers over what a few apples have done. By that logic, all Malec or Clace or Sizzy or whoever shippers would be demonized too, because I have seen all kinds of shippers engage in bad behavior in this fandom.
I and most people NEVER tag the videos or edits regarding Shumdario on twitter or instagram. Most Shumdarios do an effective job by keeping it away from the cast as much as possible. A handful of people ( mostly international fans who I don’t even know), that tagged Matthew or Harry in videos or edits ( who don’t send it to them directly by the way) is not going to cause an apocalypse. Stop projecting extreme bi/homophobia and discomfort onto Harry. Matthew and Harry are more mature than you think and people making Shumdario fanvideos on youtube is not going ruin their friendship, grow up please. Most celebs do not care and it would take too far too long to dispel certain derogatory myths in this fandom. The anti agenda has escalated way too far. Most of the shippers are very passive and are not overboard at all. You are not going to bully the shippers out of existence with the spin, hate, lies, attacks, and accusations. People are not going to let persecution stop what they feel or fantasize about. It is sad that people are so deeply gas-lighted about this. It is truly unsettling how insecure some people are about Shumdario and what kind of microaggressions they are harboring but they tend to project that on the cast.
Matthew and Harry don’t give a flying eff about the shippers considering most of us are respectful/harmless. Matthew ships it himself. I know this is for a fact but I can’t violate privacy as to how I know this. If only the antis know how much damage they have done and what kind of negative effect it is having. The antis are sending the message, that nothing remotely homoerotic is tolerated here whether it is fantasy or reality-based. We would probably get more fanservice ( like with Domberto or Sherdario) if people were not constantly contriving drama after every single Shumdario interaction. Most celebs truly do not care. It is mostly a handful of jealous fangirls who want Harry or Matthew for themselves who cross the line into sending awful comments to Shelby or Esther ( they do not ship Shumdario and in fact, they hate Shumdario). Matthew and Harry are offended by “fans” who accuse them of being racist, misogynistic, or endorsing rape culture, Harry got trashed for posting about Climon one time, and they don’t like receiving insults from people. That is what they have an issue with. They wouldn’t like that a majority of shippers ( who are mostly innocent) are being constantly bullied on their supposed behalf.
Please stop with the abuse and the constant need to provoke drama by spreading accusations or constant distortions of situations to validate negative generalizations in order to justify bullying.
I am not even posting this on the main tags, just on the Shumdario tag. People need to learn about maturity and tolerance in this fandom. Most of the shippers are very low key yet we still have to be persecuted, slandered, and etc over literally nothing. Something relatively innocuous that goes in most fandoms with most celebs, got warped and perverted into something toxic in this fandom. There is a difference into monitoring something into making sure it does not go overboard versus vilifying/stigmatizing it fully. Yes, all of this triggers me a great deal. I know a lot of people have suffered a great deal due to the abuse that the antis constantly inflict. .
Shipping is an inherent feeling. It can be based on actual chemistry, UST, or the potential of a pairing…or it can be just pure pipe dream fantasy from fans. Bottom line, if you like the hypothetical idea of something, on some level, you ship it. People are allowed to express that with other fans within the appropriate fanspaces like tumblr ( which is respecting the 4th wall).
There is the more to the story here, but I can’t disclose it. I hope things play out in a way where this fandom can learn what a big mistake it made, by choosing to formulate an anti-bandwagon mentality against something.